Couples & Connection

From cradle to grave, connection is, in one form or another, what we are all seeking. And yet, there seems to be something that happens as a relationship grows that can often lead us down different paths.

The person, or people, we are supposed to be closest to end up becoming the strangers we share a house or a room with. But not only does it not have to be this way, there are clear road maps within couples counseling for change.

I got into couples counseling because I wanted to provide a space that is not only a place to challenge the behaviors and patterns that lead to disconnection, but also a place for couples to be honest and open with each other.

Within EFT (Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy), the patterns of disconnection are talked about as the primary problem for couples. When we work with the patterns — both within us and within our relational dynamic — that create this cycle, the other problems that seem like the key issue tend to resolve themselves.

There is a great deal of research showing that when humans are in supportive relationships, their stress decreases, their creativity expands, and so many other elements open up, all because they are held in care and support.

This is the primary thing I focus on in couples counseling: a space designed for two nervous systems to come together to build an honest discussion around what is holding them back, and what they might need in order to build a path forward together.